I am such a positive person, I wake up every morning and make a conscious effort to focus on the good things in my life.
I believe in The Secret, and mood boards, and gratitude...but sometimes I can't help but feel negativity pouring in to my life.
No matter what happens to me during my day I try to see the good in everything...but there are a lot of negative people in this industry and I'm realising there have been a lot of negative people around me throughout my life.
I love the saying 'haters gonna hate' (now made famous by the Taylor Swift song), but it's something I've always said to myself when negativity is thrown at me.
There will always be negative people in school, college, work and in life in general. And for the first time in my life I'm starting to turn that negative energy into all things positive.
The more I look back over my career, and my life in general, I realise there have always been so many negative people, poisonous people even, around me.
In a lot of cases negativity has been directed towards me, and in other situations there was just a lot of negative attitudes.
Funnily enough I actually fell out with people before over my strong belief in positive thinking and my resistance in giving in to negative thinking...
From meeting different people around the world and travelling I've noticed that Irish people are especially very negative, there is a lot of begrudgery, jealousy and sometimes straight out nastiness.
Don't get me wrong I have some amazing people in my life, friends who I know will be around forever and colleagues in this industry that I have a great relationship with.
Some people be it a producer, journalist, film maker, have had a hugely positive effect on my life, but there are a lot more who have made me feel quite negatively.
And this year I'm not going to let that happen anymore...
Sometimes negative comments and negative behaviour can get me down and leave me frustrated, but every moment I feel bad is a waste of my time and stops me from doing what I do best.
Life is so short, and I'm not going to waste my time surrounded by bad situations or negative people.
The showbiz industry - be it in Hollywood, London or Dublin is completely fake...journalists, 'celebrities', press officers, agents, we all live in a really strange blurry bubble, and sometimes I have to take a step back.
This industry can often be quite stressful, dark and addictive - on both sides of the red carpet.
I've spent the last four years highly stressed, tired and self-conscious, but I've tried my best to keep my positive attitude, and in the last few months especially I've been keeping my focus.
Not everyone agrees with my way of thinking - that a positive attitude attracts positive outcomes, but it's what I truly believe and what I practice.
The only way to really achieve a positive lifestyle though is to choose to ignore negative people and that's what I've been doing the last few months.
I'm not going through my Facebook list deleting people but I'm subconsciously doing that.
Being sick over Chistmas really made me look at my life differently and evaluate the path I'm on and the people I surround myself with.
Now I'm stepping back from certain people in my life and I'm getting closer to other people in my life...I'm finally getting the perfect balance and it's made me a happier person.
Being in business, your head has to be in a good place, because an unhappy CEO, a stressed Managing Director, an upset Producer, a pissed off Director, will just make the work bad.
So I guess I've decided to be a bit selfish, for the first time really I'm thinking about me and how I want to feel and who I want to share my life with.
A happier me means a better business, higher production value and clearer thoughts which makes me a better writer, actress and business woman.
Right now I have so many great things happening in my life. I have a TV show in pre-production, a successful business, a loving family, great friends and a roof over my head.
There are so many things to be happy about in my life and that's all I'm going to focus on.
Haters are always going to hate and in the words of Taylor Swift I'm just gonna shake, shake, shake, shake, shake...SHAKE IT OFF!
Ali
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Dreaming, Believing and seriously Werking...
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